How to deal with mean girls on the first day of school

So it's that time of the year again... Yeah, I don't need to tell you what it is, you know exactly what it is.

Yeah.

School.

To be accurate, the beginning of a new school year. Or a new college year, whatever.

Yeah, this might happen to you.

I'm going to start college in a few days, and it's as terrifying as amazing because I kind of waited for that for a long time, as it seemed like a wonderful world. Yeah, I already know it's not a wonderful nor perfect world because it's 'only' the "Students world" but it always seemed so cool to me. Highschool is over for me, and now I'm going to study in another city and live miles away from my parents! ......Weird. And awesome. And incredible. Anyway, I will talk about my own "going-to-start-going-to-college experience" later because that's not the main point of this post.

Yes.

What I want to talk to you about, is what you have to deal with when you're alone in your class or even completely new at your school, and how to survive the first day (or the entire year, it depends, it's how you prefer it) of school with that (or against that) (or also by ignoring that *jesus* I'm literally telling everything I need to explain a little lower I'm spoiling you as well as I'm spoiling myself zaijian).

So this is...
How to deal with mean girls and/or loneliness on the first day of school *
(aka what happened for me at the beginning of Junior year, but that's another story)

*Disclaimer : I'm not copying Niki and Gabi's video nor Eva's new webseries, which are by the way really great videos, don't worry. It's just that it's a topic I really really want to talk about, as I kind of went through these things (dealing with mean girls, loneliness and stuff) and I was always looking for posts about that, about how to face that in magazines or on the internet, so I'm doing it so you guys can easily find a post that gives some tips or solutions to the anxiety you can have by going back to school. :)

1) Don't be late

Of course. Yeah, you're going to tell me "but what I know that!". But you don't know how DEEP this can be. By coming late, first you'll seem kind of impolite to your teachers, and you'll be more anxious and nervous than ever, trying to find your class while running in the hallway. Secondly... everybody will notice you, and if you're shy, new to the school and don't have any friends, you don't want to be noticed this way. Especially when mean girls are in the neighborhood, if you know what I mean. Just simply come a few minutes before it all starts, choose a seat not too close to the board, but not that far because hey you still want to study and learn things, you can also choose it on the side so that you're not in the middle of all these other frightening students - yes I know how scary it can be, trust me. And voilà! You avoided something that would have freaked you out. You're welcome.

2) You're not alone

Yeah, I know how paradoxical it can sound as it is a guide to survive loneliness on the first day of school, but I assure you it really isn't. Yeah. You might feel and seem alone in your class, or in these hallways, or in this entire building. But you're not. There are tons of other people, on their first day of school, who are as alone as you, walking in the hallway thinking that they might never blend into any friends group, avoiding these girls that talk too much and judge others with the speed that they should use while taking a test. So what I suggest you is you take a look around you, 360°, yeah that's right okay. And you see all those boys and girls, in the same case as you. That's what I did in Junior year and that's what people do with me in a public place where we're all alone. You see another person, looking a little bit lost and nervous, just come to them and say something like : "hey, are you as lost as me ? woah, going back to school is never going to be the best experience I had", just tell them what you think about all this crowd and this event with a light pitch, with some humor and with A SMILE. It always works. Approved. JUST BE NICE TO PEOPLE AND YOU WON'T BE ALONE I PROMISE. Okay, I said it. :) You know what to do next. ;)

3) Shut these mean girls up once and for all, or ignore them for the eternity

Yes I had to.

That's the right thing to do. If you're strong enough to ignore them so that they stop caring about you and giving a sh*t about how you do that, how you say this and if what you wear is cute or not, then there you go. If not, just see this like you have to work out and eat healthier, so you do that and then you slowly think that you're not strong enough or motivated enough to keep going. You're starting to give up, but then remember why you started. ;) Then it all comes back and you become stronger and stronger. Another way to shut them up : when they are bitching you and making fun of you by saying something rude to you, just react by doing a questioning/non understanding face that basically says "why are they talking to me to say way too stupid things ?". It's DA BEST. (Sorry I went a little crazy)

You know, THAT FACE !

Watch this and take Rapunzel for you and her mother for your Weakness. It always works for me to stay motivated with sport and diet, and it also works for social and sentimental problems. See this part at 0:30 where Rapunzel says "NO." with confidence ? That's right. That's you.

.....And those girls will fade away in front of your determination. :)

4) Do DIY School Supplies !

I always made my own organizers and notebooks, like I bought a cheap one and then printed pictures and stuff to cover this entire thing and to personalize it. It was cool, it was a great activity and... a great way to talk to people. And throughout all the years, people, from the start to the end of the school year, were interested about it, took the notebook and were looking at each picture with carefulness, reading every text I had glued on it, and then asking me if I did that, how I did that, how long did it take me to do that etc... You know the thing. Even my crush did that okay CAN YOU HEAR THAT. Oh! and a cool video I COMMAND you to watch :

So at least, if you don't make friends with people, you can still rest on your pillow notebook.

~~ Yayy!! get entertained by your DIYs. ^-^

5) Don't be a bitch

Yeah. This one is easy. I hope you got it.

 

(I'm not saying that you're a bitch, I'm just saying that... don't bitch other people like mean girls do. yup. judgemental people are the worst kind of people)

6) Confidence is the key

Yay! Go Mulán! See that strenght?

c.o.n.f.i.d.e.n.c.e

Okay. I know this one is far from being the easiest, and I'm the first one to experience it as I pretty much have 0 confidence, but this is the only right 'way' to take. I mean, you can take whatever path you want, but your path has to be on the "Confidence road" : as long as you're confident, everything's going to be fine. I know everyone repeats this thing everywhere. But there's no better solution and better feeling - I mean I guess, for the feeling, as I never fully felt it you know. So join the club you want in your school, be active and ask questions in classes when you're curious or if you didn't understand, be spontaneous, smile, look like a strong independant young woman ! My bestfriend's father told me that, to gain confidence, I could write all the things that I'm scared to do - from the smallest to the biggest ones - on a little notebook and cross one everytime I faced it and went through it to conquer my fear and make it... not be a fear anymore, but only something, or even an habit. So yeah. Make a list of what you want to do that scares you. And go for it ! Trust yourself, because there's no one you can rely on more than you and only you.

Alright. I think I'm done with my tips now ahah. I hope it helped you to go back to school with a cooler mind and with more serenity. It's not that much of a big deal, and it's only a phase of your life. But it's not the best part of it, so you can at least try everything to make it a little less harder.

And don't worry, you'll be just FINE! ;)

Pyeong!! ~

(Just a way to relax you okay)